“As if you were on fire from within. The moon lives in the lining of your skin.” — Pablo Neruda
Have you ever met a woman whose mere presence sets a room aglow? Everything about her, from the way she carries herself to her positive energy, oozes with empowerment and authenticity. Palpable and contagious, her most prominent beauty has little to do with her age, shape or size. And all you know when the server comes is that you’ll take 700 cups of whatever she’s having.
Though it doesn’t materialize quickly, I believe we’re all capable of that kind of beauty. It radiates from within, all cliches aside, and while it’s not the first goal most people set when pondering appearance, I feel it’s the most powerful and important. Here at Girl Boner Center, we believe that embracing our sexuality and sensuality are key parts of such beauty. One of the loveliest things about that? Such embracement makes way for beauty of all kinds.
6 Ways to Look & Feel Sexy From the Inside Out
1. Cultivate happiness. While numerous studies show that people deemed physically attractive tend to have higher levels of happiness, sociologists and psychologists have determined that the near opposite is also true: Happiness makes us feel and appear more attractive to ourselves and others, regardless of aesthetics.
“When you’re happy your skin will appear healthier and your hair and nails can actually grow faster,” says Richard Fried, MD, PhD. a dermatologist in Yardley, Pennsylvania. Happiness also promotes strong immune function, protecting us from acne flareups, water retention and the blahs related to illness and staves off stress hormones, such as cortisol, which can contribute to weight gain.
So how do we obtain happiness? There’s no one or magical pathway, but making happiness is priority is a great place to start, say many experts. Focusing on gratitude, moving past emotional baggage and pursuing our passions are also proven means.
2. Watch your language. I don’t recall the last time I sat down with a group of girlfriends for any length of time without hearing at least one body-shaming remark. It’s easy to do in today’s culture, but voicing negative thoughts gives them power and inspires similar thoughts and comments from others. The old “If you can’t say anything nice….” adage should apply here. Stating only positive remarks about our bodies, or focusing on more important matters, has the opposite impact; it empowers us and our pals.
3. Steer clear of negative influences. Also not easy. But people, magazines and other media that emphasize harsh “beauty” ideals can make us feel and even appear unattractive. (When we’re self-conscious, we’re likely to slouch, frown and emit overall negative energy.) Spend time with folks who build you up, rather than push you down. And when you feel that inner nudge of self-consciousness inside while reading or watching TV, you may want to choose another publication or program.
4. Masturbate with GUSTO! LOL Well THAT painted an interesting picture. I’m not suggesting we all masturbate like Red Bull-loaded bunnies (though if that floats your GB, have at it!). What I mean is, having shame about masturbating rather defeats the purpose. When we embrace it, we also embrace ourselves. It becomes a beautifying practice that boosts our sexual confidence and body image while making way for more satisfying sex with our partners—if or when we engage. (Psst! Masturbation can also be a wonderful shared experience. Just ask Kitt Crescendo.)
5. Prioritize sex and orgasm. Couple sex and climax provide many of the same benefits of masturbation. The release of feel-good brain chemicals during climax minimizes physical and emotional stress, promoting for greater comfort and confidence with ourselves. Deep intimacy and connectedness with another can do the same. A healthy sex life also helps us better metabolize nutrients, which supports everything from healthy skin and hair to positive energy levels and moods. That’s right! Routine, satisfying sex is practically a beauty makeover.
6. Act as-if. Did you know that Botox has been shown to decrease happy moods in women who aren’t as able to freely smile? Smiling, even if we force it, sends the brain signals that make us feel more positive, according to Sonja Lyubomirsky, PhD, a researcher who specializes in happiness at the University of California, Riverside. Acting more self-assured than we are can have similar effects. Notice how you feel around others when you stand up taller and smile brighter, and while pretending that you feel and appear as beautiful as you’d like. Apply similar techniques in the bedroom if you feel self-conscious naked. Over time, you’ll likely be able to drop the act.
7. Create your own definition of sexy! One reason so many of us struggle to feel attractive as we is because the world around us presents unrealistic and damaging ideals. Make a conscious decision to refute them. What does a sexy, beautiful woman possess, in your opinion? Do you uphold yourself to those standards or society’s?
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What makes you feel beautiful and sexy? Which of the tips struck you most? Which are you working on? I love hearing your thoughts! ♥